If you want chicks to come out of the wood work, go to a pawn shop and get a cheap wedding ring to wear. Of course the chicks that will hit on you aren't worth it.
I remember a room mate and I discussing it. When we aren't in a relationship and desperate for feminine companionship its like a symbol lights up on our foreheads that signals "loser" to the girl tribe. I went into a restaurant while babysitting my toddler nephew and whoa hot chick waitress is all over both of us. I was feeling mean so I said I was a widower....Oh my god.
A) It may be time to either hang up the bottle, or seek out AA.
B) Find something you enjoy. I don't care how much you suck at it - even if its just reading a book/putting on a favorite record, but take that step.
C) Look in a mirror, and decide what you like, and what you can't stand.
D) Get a haircut/beard trim/etc, and get dressed in decent clothes. Now, that may be different, depending on background - but wear whatever makes you happy.
A) It may be time to either hang up the bottle, or seek out AA.
B) Find something you enjoy. I don't care how much you suck at it - even if its just reading a book/putting on a favorite record, but take that step.
C) Look in a mirror, and decide what you like, and what you can't stand.
D) Get a haircut/beard trim/etc, and get dressed in decent clothes. Now, that may be different, depending on background - but wear whatever makes you happy.
And exercise some. Even if it's just a 30 minute walk each day. I've heard (maybe from BDK) that a 30 minute walk is as effective as most anti-depressant drugs. And the side effects are better.
Note to self: start reading sig lines. They're actually quite amusing. :D
What usually helps me is to find some thing productive to do. Especially some thing really mundane like cleaning or simple repairs that need done. . Focuses your mind on something and you get some accomplishment out of it.
Yesterday would have been my 27th wedding anniversary, it wasn't a good day but it got a bit better later.
I reached out to two friends, who were great. Broke down in front of them, let it all out.
I have been talking to a girl I met on a biker dating site for maybe 6 weeks now. She's very polite, very reserved and a nice person. Really cute. I know she needs someone to look after her, although it seems like she's doing a good enough job of that on her own. Last night she gave me some clear indications that she is attracted to me. I really like her, but I haven't said anything on that score, I'm being like a big brother\shoulder to cry on type at the moment. She was in an abusive relationship. What kind of man beats up a 5'0 tall woman ?
Maybe we might work something out, we have a lot in common. If I've got someone who needs me I might just get out of this mess.
All my life I been in the dog house
I guess that just where I belong
That just the way the dice roll
Do my dog house song
She's different alright. Full of surprises. She's a vegetarian and I was trying to gently explain how I used to hunt with rifles.
She replies that before she went full veggie she decided to stop eating slaughterhouse meat and hunted herself with a .22 rimfire and .410 shotgun.
That's probably not too unusual in the good ol USA, but in England it's pretty much unheard of.
All my life I been in the dog house
I guess that just where I belong
That just the way the dice roll
Do my dog house song
Random suggestion, spend some time in a good Christ centered Christian church. If you grew up in one that may be a good choice or if like me you were raised unchurched, I would suggest Lutheran.
Don't worry about how you dress or whatever. If they are Christ centered, it won't matter.
I will leave this link but obviously I have never set foot in a church in Briton so ????
