She said she was okay, but I always wanted to be there to ‘help’. Whatever the hell that means.
"Help" means you're letting her know you support her on those calls just by being there. It helped.
Mrs. 'Bix and I had a miscarriage years ago. It was a very tough time, so I know some of what you're going through, and my prayers are with you both. I don't know whether I'd have wanted to know ahead or not though.
Note to self: start reading sig lines. They're actually quite amusing. :D
having no kids and with the wife post chemo, no chance of having kids with her; I can only imagine. but that is a ball of happiness and shit sandwich all wrapped up.
So, I am happy and sorrowful all at the same time.
I was born as the live half of a twins set. I turned out OK, well depending on who you ask.
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That is bittersweet news indeed. I feel for you both, and hope that happiness about your healthy baby will carry you through and beyond the sadness for the little one who cannot make it. Lavish your love for both twins on the two children you will have.
Words don't seem adequate. Congratulations and condolences just sounds wrong.
My thoughts are with you and yours.
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Wife and I's first child was a stillbirth... It is one hell of an emotional rollercoaster and one that does not go away very quickly... My uncle is a radiologist and was on the ball with giving us advice and his view of the situation as it happened and what he told me still echos in my mind, that "God (nature) has a way of taking care of the mistakes it makes"...
Do yourself a favor though... Have a funeral... Have a place that you and your wife can go to mourn... We did and it helped a lot, of course we subsequently moved 600 miles away a mere 2 years later so that was stupid... But still, it helps...
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mekender wrote:Do yourself a favor though... Have a funeral... Have a place that you and your wife can go to mourn... We did and it helped a lot, of course we subsequently moved 600 miles away a mere 2 years later so that was stupid... But still, it helps...
Thanks for the perspective. We plan on cremation, since we're both planning that for ourselves whenever we end. My wife is comforted knowing that all our ashes can be spread somewhere together.
And thank you to everyone for the kind words and prayers. The next big deal is getting to 24 weeks (2-1/2 weeks away) so we're past the viability hurdle for the boy. I got to feel the first 3rd party kick last weekend, which is heartening.
mekender wrote:... what he told me still echos in my mind, that "God (nature) has a way of taking care of the mistakes it makes"...
Do yourself a favor though... Have a funeral... Have a place that you and your wife can go to mourn... We did and it helped a lot, of course we subsequently moved 600 miles away a mere 2 years later so that was stupid... But still, it helps...
That thought and a funeral helped us a lot with closure, too. We're now 3700 miles away, but still...
Note to self: start reading sig lines. They're actually quite amusing. :D