the adjustment continues

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Precision
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the adjustment continues

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I don't know when I am going to hit an even keel that isn't a mirage, but it wasn't this weekend.

As you are very aware my wife died and that left me a little (ok a lot) a drift. I thought I had a great relationship that grenaded in my lap back in June. I thought I made some semblance of peace with that. But a confluence of things managed to rub up against each other starting on Thursday that ... well ripped some scabs off and bloodied up the whole area.

In the one sense it hurts like holy hell and I have probably eaten a total of 1000 calories since Thursday. Considering my metabolism... but even from here, I can see that in the long run it is a good thing.

The immediate triage was never really followed up with good thorough introspection and well, I have been running (away) on auto pilot. I would like to say that has ended, but to some degree (the amount that my sanity requires) it will continue. But I have seen the wounds. I have taken a good rough count on the issues. I have seen my poor attempts at dressing them and I have battled to a exhausted but better place this afternoon.

When it all gets a bit overwhelming, having the remnants of a soul sucking cold has allowed me to escape through sleep. My subconscious seems to be doing a decent job of helping my conscious brain (for a change) figure it out.

Just needed a place to admit my failings and my small amount of progress.

thanks for being that place.
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Not very demonstrative around here, but this crowd makes good listeners.
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You got my number, call anytime.
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That gal that dis-invited you from the trip? The one whose ex-boyfriend is still running her life?

Good riddance. Zero contact and keeping busy is how you heal and move on from that.
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Prayers sent. You and I haven't interacted much, but you have my email if I can help. Still haven't installed the rifle hanging straps. I'm dilatory.
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I can't talk on the phone right now, but I can listen.

I have found that taking the time to explain, write it down and post for friends helps to clear my thought channels. I know you and I are going through a different set of circumstances, but mentally they are similar.

I hate to use the term, but The Gun Counter is a "safe" place for you.

You have been through a lot, more than some of the folks here are aware of, but you are probably doing better than most folks would.

Wish you were closer so we could get in some gun therapy.
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Rumpshot wrote: Wish you were closer so we could get in some gun therapy.
^^^ That!
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Gun therapy is good. Pray a bit too, that is better.

I do not think you ever get over loosing someone, but you do learn how to deal with it eventually.
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Nobody here judges...we are all imperfect... but we're good listeners.
You'll get past this eventually. Surround yourself with things that bring you positive energy. Mentor some kids.
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skb12172 wrote:That gal that dis-invited you from the trip? The one whose ex-boyfriend is still running her life?

Good riddance. Zero contact and keeping busy is how you heal and move on from that.
I have had some news in that arena and I don't think the shitbag is still involved. My personal damage was but the other day seems to have put some of the bigger things to rest. I had a gestalt moment. Time will tell.
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