skb12172 wrote:Precision wrote:Yeah, I get it. I did dodge a bullet here. It really sucks because other then that we are super compatible.
Which explains any number of short and long term "relationships" I've had. I can be compatible with anyone friendly, attractive, and that likes sex at least as much as I do. Especially in the beginning, when everyone is behaving themselves. It's the "other than" that keeps you searching for a keeper. A main reason the dating industry is such big biz.
I'm sorry it invoked some sadness regarding your wife. Is it possible you got quickly attached because of similarities to Dawn?
In closing, be prepared to hear second hand that everything was your fault. Even her problems that predated you meeting her. This kind of crazy follows a pattern.
There were passing similarities to Dawn, but it was more like they would have been good friends as opposed to them being similar.
I think she is sitting in a pile of external (to me issues) and the "friends" used me as the scapegoat. She is currently unemployed and having a very difficult time finding a job that she likes, that pays decent and isn't out of state. I know one of her "friends" thinks she should move and take a "great" job in Ohio or DC and if I wasn't tying her down here...
In talking with some people the sadness regarding Dawn is pretty normal and happens to widow/widowers each time a new relationship dies. Each time it gets a little easier.
I don't have much overlap in the circle of friends. The two people I got to know well who were her friends, should I see them again will NOT run me down. They like me lots and they liked us together lots. Much more likely if push came to shove they would tell her she made a bad choice.
My friends that intersect with her, are all shaking their heads and asking what is her problem. It is her female "friends" that are the major issue and her dad didn't much like me, but he met me after a 7 hour drive. I cooked for 1.5 of the hours he stayed awake and was NOT talkative with any of the things I asked him about, so of course I was perceived as being egotistical for talking about myself too much. Sure when his answers were 8 words and I gave a detailed answer, I did talk a lot more.